How I learnt to love and accept myself this year. Self love is so important to personal development and overall happiness.
The year 2017! It’s almost over!
I’m typing this post in the days between Christmas and New year. That weird point where you don’t know what to do with yourself. Overindulged and PJs galore. What you can do is reflect, what are you proud of? Anything you would you like to change? Your favourite moments?
Iv had a few moments but something that has really stuck out to me is learning how to love myself more. I don’t mean in a shallow way, but I guess that could count. Iv learnt to accept me! Not to punish myself for decisions I make, or outcomes in my life. Iv learnt that self-love is so important and without it, everything else through life is just that little bit more difficult.
Have you had any goals that you’ve achieved? Or maybe not achieved this year? I used to make the mistake of only celebrating when I achieve something huge! I would only allow myself time off or downtime if I ticked off something on my list. Which is ridiculous because life itself should be celebrated whenever you get the chance! I don’t mean go out partying every night. I mean enjoy your life, see your loved ones, spend time with your friends and cherish each moment. Don’t get so caught up in making a living and saving for that holiday or the weekend. That you forget how to live now! I learnt that lesson the hard way!
I spoke to a life coach earlier this year who really made me stop and rewire a few things in my life. She helped me get a wider perspective on things and to stop focusing on the negative. Viewing your cup half full rather than half empty. I learnt a lot about my own views and habits which in my opinion were very damaging to my self belief and happiness.
How I learnt to love myself
- Ask yourself what makes you happy?
Things, people, places, your favourite movie? That candle that smells like home. Your favourite lipstick. Being in shape. Having money. Seeing loved ones. Travelling.
- When you answer that question, DO what makes you happy!
Make yourself and your happiness a priority. Dedicate time at least once a week to you time. Learning how to make yourself happy is vital, especially in relationships. How can you love someone else when you can’t love yourself?
- Keep a diary
I started a diary this year, to document and take note of my feelings, thoughts, hopes and dreams. Sounds cliche but looking back, it really helped me and my self-awareness. I became in tune with my feelings and noticed when I needed to dedicate some time to myself to get myself back on track. Life has its ups and downs that we can’t control but how you deal with them is what we have control over! Make the most of that.
- Give yourself a break!
We are our worst critique! Always putting ourselves down. Feelings like we are not good enough, not skinny enough, not pretty enough, not tall enough, not short enough. The list goes on. Stop!! Give yourself a break. Imagine if the way you spoke about yourself, you said that to a stranger. Imagine their reaction. They would be hurt, shocked and would not want to talk to you again. Now, why would you treat yourself like that?? Really…
- Stop Comparing
We spend so much time on social media these days. Viewing everyone’s ‘highlight gram‘. We compare our everyday life to people’s best highlights. Because let’s face it…who really posts regularly mundane things on social media? We become so addicted to scrolling, likes, shares, comments. That we forget about the real world. Especially now celebrities are so accessible on social media. It’s very easy to feel low about yourself while you watch Kylie Jenner on Snapchat, having her nails done and posing in her mansion daily. But come on! Your reality is your’s only and that’s unique to you. Focus on that.
My Top Tip for 2018
Love yourself! You are enough. Your life is so unique and you should be so proud of yourself. Enjoy the good moments and learn from the not so good. Be grateful and don’t dwell.
I wish you all the love and light for 2018. Let’s smash it together!